Stop Trying So Hard

Is this post encouraging apathy, laziness, and the tossing away of dreams? Of course not!

This post is however directed at obliterating false images of ourselves and letting idealized versions of perfect relax a little so who we really are in this moment can shine through with less pressure and a whole lot more confidence.

Often when we are trying to gain approval from outsiders (at whatever age, whether a colleague or group of “cool” friends, strangers on Instagram…)

It’s important in this age of images to step back and ask why we are trying to please masses of people we don’t really know in real life… and more importantly, to address why we are trying so hard to maintain an image that doesn’t quite “fit” us, all for the approval of the people that ARE in our lives.

My example?

Over my twenty-eight years I’ve had plenty of opportunities to meet many great friends, and not all people pleasing and fakery came from solely middle school years.

It seems there will always be “cool kids”, even if to be “cool” means what it usually does: to be rich, popular, or have status that others think they can use to heighten their own when in the presence and acceptance of those they hold above them.

Somehow I woke up one day to realize that a lot of my friendships were this fake and superficial.

As an entrepreneur dedicated to making an ethical empire and profit for my company, in no way was I trash talking those who made great money… just the judgement that I sensed emanating from a few girls I hung out with who worked for fashion corporations making great money and scoffing with disdain at people’s salaries that I would feel downright blessed to have achieved.

The problem did not lie in that particular person and their vocal disdain for those making less than six figures as much as it revolved around my association with such a person.

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